Now, listen. Good communication requires you to do at least at much listening as talking. Great communication requires you to listen more than you talk. Step back, breathe deep, and remember you married a well-intentioned person. Your spouse may need time to think through what you’ve shared and process it. Plan on having more than one conversation in order to have time to figure out how to calmly, clearly, and honestly communicate what’s important to you and to listen well.